Relationship!!
tricky or not??
After just having my 10th wedding anniversary although spending 17 years with my best friend we always get asked how we have managed to find each other and to stay so alive and connected.
Don’t get me wrong, like everyone else I have had my ups and downs and was exceptionally sceptical to commit again after being burnt more than once.
However, we built this partnership on trust, love, connection, compromise but ultimately friendship and respect.
There are no secrets, no one should be more powerful than the other this is a mutual journey of likeminded souls. Now we may have very different views on things, but we respect that. We may want to do different things at time; however, we come together and support each other in all our endeavours.
Sometimes I’m up and positive and the next she is, we ride those waves of support and come out so much stronger at the other end.
We share and try don’t keep secrets, we TALK/COMMUNICATE even on the more delicate subjects, worries, concerns, vulnerabilities which again through mutual support makes us stronger, more connected, more in love and more passionate.
All relationships whether with spouses, children, family and friends are built on these trusts and loyalties and that little bit of compromise and go a very long way.
I today’s society we have a throw away culture so as soon as something hits a bump in the road it’s so easy to “end this now” situation and another fish will come along. How does this help us, how does this connect us always searching for something textbook perfect? WHERE IS THAT BOOK??!! I never found it, and you will end up searching unfulfilled for all your life. Life too precious and too short to waste time like this for something that can be worked at and surviving and coming out the other end can only make you more connected and together.
Is there anyone out these that can say they are perfect themselves with no regrets or history I certainly can’t so why should your partner.
We all have different perspectives; all see the world through different eyes even if standing next to each other. These are the world filters we have established over all our years and experiences and teaching; our partners have the same but different focal points. Sometimes if we can for a short time take the time to look through their eyes maybe we can soften our response and not escalate and small disagreement. Life to short as I even found out yesterday when losing a dear and close friend who was as strong and supportive a man a partner could want. Don’t waste energy on the little things and LIVE please.
